Being the Best Pawrent

One of the most wonderful things about being an animal communicator is I see the world through their eyes. Especially the eyes of Sammy, and how our pets come to teach us so much. And how much we fail them.

Even I have failed Sammy on occasion because I get caught up in what I think is right or what I have been taught as a human what being “humane” is. We do not understand that animals suffer greatly without showing it, and this is where we and our veterinarians can fail them.

Sammy has had a few vets in his life, the last one for almost six years now. And as great as his vet is (homeopathic & conventional) she also misses the mark where suffering, past traumas, and his emotional well being comes in. This is because as a conventional vet she is taught, just like a conventional MD, to look at the body and what it is saying through symptoms, tests, and procedures. Not necessarily what the animal is saying. By what they see in their tests they make the ASSUMPTION that your pet is not in pain, but only your pet knows if it is suffering.

Recently a vet said to a friend about their very senior dog, who has multiple health conditions and is currently sleeping more than he is being awake, that ‘we haven’t done everything we can‘ (paraphrasing here), even though the pet has been like this for almost a year. This friend said this in front of Sammy and, of course, Sammy asked me to talk about it here.

When a pet owner hears this from their vet, it should be a red flag for two things.

First, the vet has a lot more tests or procedures or medications they can TRY. Remember, this ability to give your pet more tests and drugs has no baring on the quality of life of your pet. All it means is that they have been taught to do everything they possibly can to keep your pet alive, no matter the cost or suffering. Yes we have the ability to use euthanasia for our pets, but only when the vet has decided you can do so, not when you know in your heart that your pet is suffering and all the tests and procedures and drugs in the world aren’t going to change anything. In fact they could even cause more suffering.

Just like human doctors don’t think you are suffering until you are screaming bloody murder, so does the vet. After all, veterinary education began by integrating a paralleled approach from human medical training. Sadly they have not veered off that track very far in the last century. And if you think being an Animal Communicator, who can relay word for word what the animal is saying, will make any difference, think again. Its only helpful to an certain extent.

Second, and more importantly, there is a realization for the owner that they need to be paying much more attention to their pet and how they are acting/reacting to day to day life. Keep a journal. Every night write down your pet’s day from your perspective ~ how long they slept, how long they played, what parts of their body hurt them (were they limping, siting more than standing, trouble getting up or down, etc), what parts of their body are more inflamed than others, did they eat more or less than normal, and so on. This will give you, and your vet, a better picture of our pets day to day quality of life. Remember, drugs given to your pet are to maintain their condition, not cure it. So don’t get into the thought process that since your pet is on some great drug that they will be fine.

Also, just because we now have “hospice for pets” doesn’t mean you should prolong their life. While some pet owners should consider hospice for their pet, depending on their condition, be sure to take in everything your pet says and everything you see where your pet is concerned. Ask yourself if you are prolonging the inevitable. Do not put your own desire for your pet to remain in your world above it’s quality of life. This is the number one reason most pets suffer at the end of their life.

Always put yourself in your pet’s shoes. How would you feel in their condition? Would you want your death prolonged? Only then will know the right answer.

I am certainly not saying don’t listen to your vet. What I am saying is that this is a three way conversation between your pet, you and your vet. You wouldn’t like someone making decisions about your life and death, would you? Then why do you think your pet should deserve any less?

Lisa


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